Philip Holden

We can all remember saying this, at some point in our lives.  Well, I have news for you; no one is responsible for our feelings.  Feelings are chemical exchanges which take place in our physical body.  When we are ‘blaming’ someone for ‘hurting our feelings’, we are off loading the responsibility of our own feelings onto them.  When we do this we are giving away our power of transformation.  If a feeling is not within you, suppressed, somewhere, (see the address about ‘Feelings’) then no one can get you in touch with them.  How many times do we blame our anger on others?  Anger is a sign that we have not developed our Amygdala.

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This is the organ responsible for injecting the hormones, Adrenalin and Cortisol into the blood stream for the ‘Fight or Flight’ syndrome, it is one of the few parts of the brain fully developed at birth, to increase our chances of survival.  As we get older the Neocortex develops, it starts to ‘buffer’ the signals that are sent to the adrenal glands by the Amygdala, interfering with them.  When we ‘count to 10 (or in some cases 20 or 30 is advisable), we are learning and teaching ourselves to inhibit this consciously, which allows us to deal with the feeling, rather than pumping all that adrenaline and cortisol into our system.

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The Cortisol converts muscle into energy, therefore if we do not use this hormone up, it can cause physical damage to us, and this is the main danger of long term stress.

So if you have any feelings of anger, always put it to a physical purpose that is not negative, this way you can use up the hormones before they damage your body.

So remember ‘no one makes us feel’, we attract people and things around us which ‘get us in touch with our feelings’.

Isn’t Jesus always quoted as saying ‘Know thy own self’?

The reason why we bless our enemies and the likes is because of their ability to get us in touch with our feelings, so let’s bless them with conviction knowing, that we have done our very best with the tool given to us by God.

Most of you will have already heard about the new law that is being passed.  Firstly, it is to stop people sending those nuisance letters threatening you with 'bad luck' unless you pay them money.  Unfortunately, these types of fraud have given some of the people who know no better, a grey opinion of us and the big umbrella of the law is reaching out to us as well.

We now have to state that 'it is for entertainment purposes only’ and be very careful how we describe what is happening during a Divine Service or 'Clairvoyance' (which must now be called 'Mediumship'), because if the medium is Clairaudient, then we are mis-representing what is happening.

Now I question, does the Pope have to say ‘this is for entertainment purposes only’ before he gives an address?  For this is inspirational linking as we do, is it not?  We have to bite our tongues and not reagard this as an insult to our beliefs, but we can make it work.

Over the years, I have noticed, that sometimes, I get complacent about the 'good' I am doing, until the 'dark side' gets a bit disturbed and seems to have a sort of 'whiplash effect'.  This is just the natural progression of life, because without evil we would not evolve, but you see, we must always be prepared for the come-back of this type of thing when we are light workers.

I have suffered as well as most of you, where we have allowed ourselves to be ‘good people’ and helped others, to the detriment of our own security, sometimes, (whether it is monetary or health, etc.)  I have realised that this is spirits way of saying ‘Hey take care of yourself first’, so I have got into the habit of asking myself ‘Have I got this to give?’ first, before I fall over myself to help others.  I have also learnt to question if the person would do the same for me, if the role was reversed?

You may think this sounds a bit selfish, but we have to learn new boundaries somewhere!

Now, as you know, I believe in ‘the two sides of a coin’, where and why did this new law come about?  Someone went to a medium, was told things in such a way that when it did not happen, they complained that the medium had taken their money, with unfilled futuristic claims.

These people need to realise that they are in charge of their futures  and no one else; all we can do is foresee possible future realities.  I always inform the sitter, that from this point on (at the reading) you can change anything in your future, as in deed you are currently the product of your past thoughts and actions.

But these people have to have someone to blame, so the flip side of the coin, to these people are that we need to send out compassion for them, their past was probably filled with all sorts of life experiences which brought them to this blameful place.  You know the type of person who never accepts responsibilities and has to blame someone else for everything.

All over the world, at any time, there is a war going on between two or more sides.  Let’s take a while to look into this phenomenon, for every action in the world there is a re-action, so does that rule out that the original action was not a re-action of something previous?

There is always a flipside to any coin, as indeed there are for emotions.  Take a while to consider what the flip side of War might be, or the feelings which lead up to it?

War usually involves ‘hate’ does it not?  Is the flipside to hate, ‘love?’  Maybe, we know that although hate and love are not exactly opposite, to hate someone with a high degree, we must have loved them to a similar degree?

Think about why people start to fight, is it not because they originally had a fear that they themselves might be killed, or lose their freedom in some way, or not have bread on the table to feed themselves or family?

Is not fear the flipside of ‘Greed’, and is not war the result of protecting these things, which once it gets exaggerated, becomes ‘Greed?’

Therefore take yourself into the place where you can appreciate that war may be the resulting action of feeling fearful of some of these things.

Remember every cause has an ‘effect’, and every effect has a ‘cause.’

If God is unknowable, then why do we spend so much effort getting to know him?

We are all part of God, and we are the part of him that we can get to know.  Most people come to listen to a medium, for them to tell them things which proves that God not only exists, but so do our loved ones after the physical death.  Well I want to ask you, what is a better way to get to know God?

Everyone around you is a 'perfect expression of God' or so we are told.  Therefore, would it not be a lot easier to get to know the other parts of God, other people around us, than sending our thoughts etc. 'up to the heavens?'

Remember, before you get to know God, or the parts of God in all those around you, first you must release your judgements, so that you can see who that person truly is and not what you 'paint' on that white canvas from your fears.

My address this weekend, was about Truth.  There is no such thing as the whole truth, only two half truths, your half truth and mine.  If those two truths are in harmony, then we have a 'Whole truth'.  If not we only have two 'half truths' and nothing more, but remember, our truths are based on our experiences in life, no two are the same.  Anyone who judges others, basing their judgement on one half truth, is a fool.  Be sure of that!

But also remember, that in our judging, we also compare that person with others that have been powerful in our lives, especially those who have got us in touch with our pain.  If that 'new' person resembles any of these past initiators of our pain, then our subconscious automatically tries to protect us and puts up the barriers.  So judge gently and be aware of the reason why you might have judged harshly in the past (and may still in the present and future).

Love Light & Wholeness